I have been reading the articles and tributes to Amy Winehouse. They are hard to avoid online today. LIFE magazine had a great photo essay on their website with all kinds of celebrities paying homage to her. Adele wrote a beautiful piece on her blog.
As I read these beautiful compliments about Amy I thought to myself “Did anybody ever tell her these things?” “Did she know how admired she was as a person and an artist?”
What is it about being famous that sends these stars to drugs and alcohol? Is it the easy access within their social culture? Or is it something deeper. Is it that they don’t believe they deserve the ridiculous amount of attention and adoration that is set upon them, sometimes very suddenly as in Amy’s case?
Human nature behooves me sometimes. I don’t believe there is such a thing as self-sabotage anywhere else in the animal kingdom. What would happen if we all believed we had a right to be happy? Would we stop sabotaging ourselves with drugs, alcohol, cigarettes and even food? Would we learn self-care and self-respect?
It doesn’t seem to matter how much a person is told, rewarded or celebrated for their talents or gifts. If they don’t believe in their own greatness, any compliment will feel disingenuous to them. If they don’t believe they are worth it, they seem to find a way to make sure they don’t seem worth it from the outside.
I didn’t know Amy. I just know that she was worth loving by her parents, friends and family just as the rest of us are. Too bad she didn’t see it. Sadly, those left behind pay the price for her misunderstanding of her own self.
What do you need to know about yourself to start feeling like you are worth it?
Rest in peace Amy Winehouse.